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When It’s Too Much To Make Sense Of

At times it’s hard to come up with what to distill and offer up on my site for you to read. And I’ll admit, it’s terribly difficult to come to anything meaningful when my personal and professional reality are so overwhelming that, despite my own philosophy and practices, I still endeavor to see the forest through the trees. This is what happens when life feels like too much to take in. I’m currently not flying as high as usual and it’s taken a tremendous amount of effort to get through my professional to-do list. An irrational worry looms that this weighty feeling might not go away anytime soon.  And though, I still look for the common denominator – the theme that emerges in this state – that feels on purpose and worthy of calling out to make visible the patterns that have been

If You Only Needed To Know One Thing

Stress, anxiety, misery, suffering, angst, complaining… you name it, all of this I consider negativity. If you haven’t sat down and thought through its many subtleties and implications, the concept of negativity could feel pretty unwieldy and mysterious. Without considering its true cause it can also feel pretty unmanageable. And when I say true cause, I mean the root – not the “it’s my circumstances, partner, situation, environment” – explanation. Because the reality is, all that stuff we tend to blame is just that. Stuff. Strip away all the interpretations, stories, and meaning we assign to the stuff and we’re left with nothing triggering. We’re simply left with an objective “what-is” of our experience. So what is it about the overlay that gets us caught up in such a swirl of seemingly nebulous conflict? What is it in our perception and

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The 3 Step Process To Let It Go

I’m a big believer that our experience of the world exists within conversations – because our lives are defined by our relationships, which are defined by conversations. I’m currently engaged in a course on a new field of study, Conversational Intelligence, which covers the neuroscience of conversations as it relates to our personal lives and professional organizations. So, inevitably, expect an occasional nugget that touches upon the transformative nature of conversations until the end of July. 🙂 Now onto the art of letting go… This is a topic that comes up often, both with friends and clients. Holding on to “stuff” can be a serious source of voluntary misery. Today’s nugget… I learned that cortisol, a neurotransmitter associated with the “fight or flight” response that tells the brain to shut down executive functions when a threat presents itself, has a shelf life of 26 hours in our system. That’s a long time. What’s also important to note is

F@#$ Your New Year’s Resolutions

Happy New Year!! I’m writing this while my husband and I are sitting in the Taipei airport waiting for a connecting flight to Bali to attend a dear friend’s wedding. Almost there after 14 hours with some more to go so if you catch any typos it’s because I’m starting to see double. But jet lag or not, there’s no way I could skip the first post of this fabulous new year. The obvious subject would be resolutions, but I’m not going there. I trust you’ve had your fair share of “new year’s resolutions” content flood your feed and conversations and have already publicly or privately affirmed the shifts you’d like to make. That’s great. That’s all true for me too. But rather than dive into resolution talk – the “stuff” that we’re looking to start, change, create, or quit –

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Do You Color Inside The Lines?

It’s a delightful thing, coloring together with my kids at the dining room table. I marvel at how they silently swim in their own gigantic imaginations and translate their inner worlds onto paper.  They hate activity pages, only want “clear” printer paper, and in their wildly self-expressed ways create with complete abandon. Their intent, focus, and storylines are intense. Now me? I tend to doodle or color in one of their coloring books. What you read above is NOT my personal experience of creative expression. READ: I like to color inside the lines. Reflecting on this observation last week, I had an interesting thought: by insisting that I color inside the lines, have I been unintentionally keeping myself from taking big chances in life? This might seem like a stretch but hear me out. By drawing inside the lines, I follow the


The Gift Of Choice Is More Profound Than You Think

As we enter into the holiday season, particularly the reverent week of Thanksgiving, I can’t help but focus on gratitude.  Years past, I’ve reflected on gratitude as a “beingness,” or stance, rather than an activity.  This year, I narrow in and focus on one thing I’m thankful for – one thing us humans rarely stop to acknowledge… Choice. The fact that we are at choice is profound. We exercise basic choice – like preferences and how we live our lives – to significant choice: our perception, beliefs, interpretations, and essentially what’s possible for us and our life. This week I share a reflection my friend and colleague, Sina Mossayeb, captured in honor of choice – a gift we can all be incredibly thankful for. “Have you ever made a choice you know was high risk, certainly not accepted by the masses


Live As If Everything Is An Experiment

  What if everything in life was an experiment? Would you be more engaged? More brave? You’d bet you this… you’d live with conviction because you’d know you couldn’t fail. It feels like every week or so I pick up something new – a new insight, concept, or perception that moves me profoundly. And when it hits, it feels like “Me” talking to me, in some weird Bruce Almighty sort of way. For the big ones, I usually convert them into blog posts. For all the rest, I chew on them, make them a part of my regular internal dialogue, and put them into practice. This week, I share an idea that’s popped up over and over as a result of the current changes happening in my life – career transitions, a decision to move my family back to the