Holiday Stress. We’re in the realm of immediate gratification this month. Why? Because we’re in the midst of holiday season. Nothing like overloaded calendars, crazed shoppers, and demanding family members to summon the need for instant relief. So before you reach for the TV remote, a bag of chips, or a glass of wine to check out, I’m going to encourage you to check IN and ask yourself just this one thing: what am I resisting right this moment? Do this every time you catch yourself feeling any emotion that isn’t pleasant. The ONLY reason you feel less than great is because you’ve got resistance going on. You could be resisting a person, a situation, a thwarted expectation, an emotion, or even the weather. But the fact is – you don’t feel good because you’re resisting what is in this
Give your inner critic a break. Make some of these tips to feel amazing a daily habit and watch how happiness becomes a way of life.
I often marvel at the fact that my life is so vastly different than it was just a decade ago. Today I’m so connected and online it’s hard to remember how I functioned back then. As a kid I didn’t have a mobile phone, no one else did either, and life was good. There’s this one occasion I remember when I was around 16 years old. My dad was letting me drive his 1979 white Ford pick up truck that was on its last legs. I remember every morning praying to the powers that be that the truck stay alive on my way to school. Of course, one day it broke down in the middle of a busy thoroughfare during the morning commute hour. It must of been quite a sight – a teenager in a school girl uniform standing
We’re all working hard to be happy. We get an education to get a job to make money – to live a happy and fulfilling life, right? When I look around though, it feels like people are struggling more than they are happy. I hear more about anxiety, stress, and depression than I do about joy and gratitude. Most people exhaust themselves to be, and have, enough. Which leads me to my topic this week: COMPARISON. Ask yourself this question: Would I feel more fulfilled if I stopped comparing myself to others? Imagine a world in which comparison didn’t exist. Do you think you could feel more happy with yourself and your life as a result? I ask myself this question and it stops me dead in my tracks. FOR SURE I would be more fulfilled. I’d feel like a
Somewhere between the ages of 8 and 34 years old I forgot how to be playful and free. I mean, like, TRULY playful and free – the filled with wonder and silly abandon kind of stuff. That unfortunate, but highly productive, need for order and achievement that popped up from my adolescent insecurities squashed my inner child. So much so I forgot I had one. Until I went back to Burning Man this year after a three-year break. My husband and I have had valid excuses (new baby, possible spinal surgery, move to another city, blah blah). But this year we agreed to go with our closest friends and stay with the most amazing “no-camp” camp. And boring story later… …we did it. It was awesome. It was worth it. And this is what I’ve figured out: Burning Man forces me
“Dear Human: You’ve got it all wrong. You didn’t come here to master unconditional love. That is where you came from and where you’ll return. You came here to learn personal love. Universal love. Messy love. Sweaty love. Crazy love. Broken love. Whole love. Infused with divinity. Lived through the grace of stumbling. Demonstrated through the beauty of… messing up. Often. You didn’t come here to be perfect. You already are. You came here to be gorgeously human. Flawed and fabulous. And then to rise again into remembering. But unconditional love? Stop telling that story. Love, in truth, doesn’t need ANY other adjectives. It doesn’t require modifiers. It doesn’t require the condition of perfection. It only asks that you show up. And do your best. That you stay present and feel fully. That you shine and fly and laugh and
This week I’m sharing a perspective I’ve had to actively practice to get me through the past month. On the surface nothing’s wrong, all is wonderful, and I’ve got a crazy amount of reasons to be delighted and grateful. But I’ve not been feeling that way. I’ve actually felt quite languid and uninspired – just generally down. I’m not flying as high as usual and it’s taken a tremendous amount of effort to get through my professional to-do list. Worries pop up that this dark period might never go away. I fear that the amazing, empowered, and prosperous place I was in prior might never come back. What if I’m stuck languishing in “meh” energy and my life passes me by? Ok, I know that’s a bit dramatic but you probably know what I’m talking about. I bring it up