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Stand like Batman. Solve your problems.

Solve your problems

 

This year I said I’d be getting real.
What’s more real than Batman?

I don’t know about you but this year has started off with a bang and I can barely keep up.

More obligations than I know what to do with, mental preoccupations that are my own fault, and a 2 year-old reigniting separation anxiety.

Wine please?

Maybe I’m tapping into the collective consciousness that is hope and optimism in the January month – new beginnings, fresh starts, invigorated commitments. Or maybe I’m just committed to being busy. Either way, there’s a lot going on.

I’m sure you can relate.

For the most part, I think I’m rocking it. But I falter when the word “should” creeps around the corner and invades my thinking. Particularly around parenting. I’m pretty stellar at keeping that word and all it’s variants from my vocabulary, but when it comes to my children I’ve got a big blindspot. My tolerance for risk diminishes significantly and I find myself making more fear-based decisions than I’d like to. Yes, I’m afraid I’m going to fuck up my kids. Because I love them so much. And maybe I read too much. Damn transpersonal psychology degree.

But, whatever. That’s what it means to be a parent. Just gotta deal with it.

And I do. 

And I’ve got a trick.

And It might impress your friends.

I came across some research not long ago that suggests that assuming stances of power for a minute increase your testosterone levels and thus your tolerance for risk, resilience, and confidence. 

What does this mean?

Stand like Batman and solve your problems.

Really.

Transposing this onto my life looks like this…

  • I’m about to meet the CEO of a startup I really, really want to work for. Like, REALLY. It would be a dream come true and a massive change to my day-to-day. Pressure? No bother. Strike a pose in the bathroom of Sightglass for a minute and my nerves go from shaky to solid. Oh yeah, that’s right, I powerfully remember that whatever emerges is always on purpose. Calm and powerful presence result.

  • I have a photo shoot planned for The Women’s Project. This is no insignificant photo shoot. I’m supposed to be in lingerie. Because it’s the February issue. And that’s what we do in February, right? Well, navigating the conversations around “what it means” is scary and exhausting. How do I manage this? Pull a Batman and then make my decisions. Maybe I rock the Batman in lingerie. Maybe I don’t do it at all. Clarity results.

  • I just went away for two nights with my dearest soul sister. It was incredible and nourishing, but compromised due to circumstances we couldn’t control. We want to do it again. We need to do it again. But propose to do it again? C’mon! I’ve got two young children and a completely selfless husband who works around the clock. Leave once more? Indulgent? Maybe. Necessary? Yes. Batman then plan. Confidence results.

  • I’m about to walk down the cereal aisle with two hungry and done-with-grocery-shopping youngsters. I strike my superhero stance in front of the spaghetti sauce before I brave koala cocoa puffs. Maybe it’s my Batman energy – the absolute resolve that whatever arises out these two, I will lovingly not yield to their demands or cater to their cries. Maybe they get that, as of now, I don’t give a hoot what others think what kind of parent I am if my two year old tries to throw herself from the cart in defiance. Whatever it is, it works. I am Batman and they are unfazed by the chocolate Koala. Power results.

Yes – this is my life and I’ve pulled a Batman in each scenario. And you know what, IT WORKS. I might not be making perfect or “right” decisions every time (if that concept is even accurate, ha!). But at least I feel at peace and complete with what I end up doing.

And that’s all that really matters anyway, right? 

Think I’m kidding? Try it out. Channel your inner superhero for 60 seconds when the going gets sticky. Infuse yourself with some mighty presence. Live life powerfully to infinity and beyond. Be Always on Purpose.

Leave me a comment and tell me how it goes. 😉


Amy Eliza Wong is a life coach, writer, and speaker in the Sacramento, CA area committed to helping people figure out what makes them tick so they can finally live with joy and real purpose. Learn more about working with her.

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