I often marvel at the fact that my life is so vastly different than it was just a decade ago. Today I’m so connected and online it’s hard to remember how I functioned back then. As a kid I didn’t have a mobile phone, no one else did either, and life was good. There’s this one occasion I remember when I was around 16 years old. My dad was letting me drive his 1979 white Ford pick up truck that was on its last legs. I remember every morning praying to the powers that be that the truck stay alive on my way to school. Of course, one day it broke down in the middle of a busy thoroughfare during the morning commute hour. It must of been quite a sight – a teenager in a school girl uniform standing
I’ve not yet met one person that enjoys feeling fat. And I’ve met so many people that believe they are overweight that I’m clear there is no set standard on what feeling overweight really is. Yes, being fat can mean a BMI score, a number on the scale, or a pinch with a caliper, but what also tells us we’re overweight is a feeling. Why? Because I reflect on my own experience and realize that it’s the only thing it can be. Some days I look at myself and know I’m great. Fittest I can be, best I’m feeling, and loving what I see looking back at me. I love what I see and feel. Then there are the days that I look at myself and don’t like it. It feels sloppy, large, messy… just ugh. But the weight
Alright, here it is… the one question that, if you ask nothing else, will change everything. Whenever you feel the least bit miffed, hurt, disappointed, sad, angry, stressed, or rejected ask yourself this: “What did I just make that mean?” If you do only this you’ll liberate yourself from a whole bunch of lousy feelings. And at the end of the day, it’s really just the lousy feelings that keep you from being joyful, right? Right. It’s not that annoying co-worker you can’t stand. No, it’s not your irritating spouse that doesn’t listen to you. And no, it’s not even the poorly managed kitchen remodel that’s taking FOREVER. Stuff is happening. Stuff is just stuff. You tell a story about it to make sense of your world. The question is: is that story serving you? Look at it this way.
You’re sick of your situation. Your partner is driving you up the wall, the kids are too. You’re frustrated with your job. You’re tired of feeling overwhelmed. If things would just finally CHANGE, you’ll feel so much better. Wanna hear something interesting? The stress and frustration you’re experiencing has nothing to do with what’s happening right now in this minute. Really, truly. AND, The stress you’re experiencing is nothing more than resistance to what is. That’s it. Yes, your resistance to what is is the sole cause of your discomfort, unhappiness, and flat-out stress. Pretty interesting, right? Here’s what to do with this. Your stress isn’t now. Let’s start with the fact that stress doesn’t exist in the present moment. Hold up, I sense your doubt but just hear me out. When you’re stressed and resisting your current situation, what’s the focus
This blog post is dedicated to all you “planners” out there, to all you individuals that are incredibly timely, and to those of you who fill up your schedule with lots of things to look forward to. My amazing husband, Arnold, surprised me with a three-night trip to Vegas last week for our eight-year wedding anniversary. He told me nothing other than that we’d be there for three nights. He didn’t tell me where we were staying, what we’d be doing, where we’d be eating, and better yet, who among our best friends would be coming out to celebrate with us. The four days unfolded magically and it was truly incredible – three full nights without kids and only amazing surprise after surprise to be revealed. Not only was it really a dream come true, but I had a revelation
Do you react or do you respond to life’s challenges and stressors? Learn how to harness the choice point and exercise response more often. I’m in the midst of a pretty intense personal development process all in service to transforming and evolving. It’s been an incredible journey so far and I’m coming to new insights that I’m not just becoming aware of, but actually putting into practice to affect significant change. A theme that has been interwoven throughout this process is reactivity – essentially recognizing when am I reacting to life and when am I responding to it. I became curious about the formal definitions of respond vs. react. According to Dictionary.com: React means: “To act in response to an agent or influence” Respond means: “To reply or answer in words; to react favorably” When I see these two together