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This week I’m getting on my soap box for a second because the past month has been rough for lots of us. Maybe it’s the mercury retrograde we’re in (doubtful) or maybe it’s because it’s the tail of the Horse year (less doubtful, but only because I like Chinese Astrology :). In my world, relationships have been going through some serious upheaval. After years of partnership, partners are making the brave move to be authentic and honest with themselves and consequently their partner. This effects change and can incite panic and despair. But panic and despair only because of the stories we’re telling.  Regardless if it’s due to a relationship or not, any negative emotion we’ve got going on is because of the picture we’re painting in our heads. We’re storytellers. We recount our past, we describe our present, and we envision a

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Holiday Eating Tips – Food vs. Joy

(Holiday Eating Tips – originally published on The Womens Project as Food vs. Joy.) Wouldn’t you agree that the holidays bring up just as much stress as they do joy? As Christmas music starts to play, twinkling lights begin to go up, and cloying scents of cinnamon and pine waft through department stores, our nostalgic childhood memories are summoned by familiar feelings of joyous anticipation and comfort.  It feels wonderful. Until it doesn’t.  Crowds, hyper-materialistic consumerism, and weight gain, oh my! We might be pretty good at controlling our experience around mobs of crazed shoppers, but what about all the amazing food?? I mean, we HAVE to eat to stay alive, right? While we can avoid Black Friday for sanity’s sake, we cannot forgo sustenance.  It’s not so easy to eliminate the things we need to survive (read: fudge), especially

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How To Thrive With Holiday Stress

Holiday Stress. We’re in the realm of immediate gratification this month. Why? Because we’re in the midst of holiday season. Nothing like overloaded calendars, crazed shoppers, and demanding family members to summon the need for instant relief. So before you reach for the TV remote, a bag of chips, or a glass of wine to check out, I’m going to encourage you to check IN and ask yourself just this one thing: what am I resisting right this moment? Do this every time you catch yourself feeling any emotion that isn’t pleasant. The ONLY reason you feel less than great is because you’ve got resistance going on. You could be resisting a person, a situation, a thwarted expectation, an emotion, or even the weather. But the fact is – you don’t feel good because you’re resisting what is in this

3 REAL ways to eliminate your stress and misery

  You’re sick of your situation. Your partner is driving you up the wall, the kids are too. You’re frustrated with your job. You’re tired of feeling overwhelmed. If things would just finally CHANGE, you’ll feel so much better. Wanna hear something interesting? The stress and frustration you’re experiencing has nothing to do with what’s happening right now in this minute. Really, truly.  AND, The stress you’re experiencing is nothing more than resistance to what is. That’s it. Yes, your resistance to what is is the sole cause of your discomfort, unhappiness, and flat-out stress. Pretty interesting, right? Here’s what to do with this. Your stress isn’t now. Let’s start with the fact that stress doesn’t exist in the present moment. Hold up, I sense your doubt but just hear me out. When you’re stressed and resisting your current situation, what’s the

Change one word and change your life

You *should* read this. Ready for a small idea with huge implications?  All we are going to do is eliminate one word from your vocabulary. One word that I guarantee you say, and probably way too much. “SHOULD.” I “should” make more time to sit down and write. I “should” be getting more sleep. I “shouldn’t” be eating so much. I “should” be better at this parenting thing. I should, I should, I should…. When you hear or say “should,” how does it make you feel? Heavy, burdened, obligated, stressed?  Now ask: “ ‘Should’ according to who?” “Should” according to YOU. What?! Now why would you do that to yourself? We all have this idea in our head of how things should be. We fear that if we don’t keep up with our shoulds, then things will fall through the cracks and we’ll fail miserably. I challenge