Alright, here it is… the one question that, if you ask nothing else, will change everything. Whenever you feel the least bit miffed, hurt, disappointed, sad, angry, stressed, or rejected ask yourself this: “What did I just make that mean?” If you do only this you’ll liberate yourself from a whole bunch of lousy feelings. And at the end of the day, it’s really just the lousy feelings that keep you from being joyful, right? Right. It’s not that annoying co-worker you can’t stand. No, it’s not your irritating spouse that doesn’t listen to you. And no, it’s not even the poorly managed kitchen remodel that’s taking FOREVER. Stuff is happening. Stuff is just stuff. You tell a story about it to make sense of your world. The question is: is that story serving you? Look at it this way.