This week I’m getting on my soap box for a second because the past month has been rough for lots of us. Maybe it’s the mercury retrograde we’re in (doubtful) or maybe it’s because it’s the tail of the Horse year (less doubtful, but only because I like Chinese Astrology :). In my world, relationships have been going through some serious upheaval. After years of partnership, partners are making the brave move to be authentic and honest with themselves and consequently their partner. This effects change and can incite panic and despair. But panic and despair only because of the stories we’re telling. Regardless if it’s due to a relationship or not, any negative emotion we’ve got going on is because of the picture we’re painting in our heads. We’re storytellers. We recount our past, we describe our present, and we envision a
Alright, here it is… the one question that, if you ask nothing else, will change everything. Whenever you feel the least bit miffed, hurt, disappointed, sad, angry, stressed, or rejected ask yourself this: “What did I just make that mean?” If you do only this you’ll liberate yourself from a whole bunch of lousy feelings. And at the end of the day, it’s really just the lousy feelings that keep you from being joyful, right? Right. It’s not that annoying co-worker you can’t stand. No, it’s not your irritating spouse that doesn’t listen to you. And no, it’s not even the poorly managed kitchen remodel that’s taking FOREVER. Stuff is happening. Stuff is just stuff. You tell a story about it to make sense of your world. The question is: is that story serving you? Look at it this way.